Most of us have grown up watching rom com movies or reading love stories, however the reality is far away from the fiction. The idea of love is what we all want without comprehending the hard work and efforts put in relationships. In the modern day and age, it’s harder than ever to find love and above all maintain that love with your partner. We can say that everyone needs help in the love and relationship department and if you do as well, then don’t worry you are not alone.
Sometimes we need answers to the unknown questions about love. The advice of your friends or the social media won’t really help, this is where you need to start investing more time with the books that are meant to make you think deeper about love and make you understand the whole idea of love on a different level. If you want to know more about love and how you can find love in this big and crazy world then read these following books and see if they can change your perception on love and relationships.
1. The 5 Love Languages
Author: Gary Chapman
The 5 Love Languages is one of the most popular books on love that you will find. The author has managed to provide us an insight on different love languages and how one should recognize it. We are all different beings and how we express our feelings is also different from one another. This is where the concept of love languages arises from.
Everyone has a different love language in which they express their love for their partner. Some might like to express it by giving gifts, others might use verbal affirmation, some people are comfortable with showing love via physical touch, some like to spend quality time, and some people like to indulge in acts of service for their partner.
These are the 5 major types of love languages that people have. You and your partner might have a different love language that may create rift if you don’t recognize or appreciate the efforts of each other. This book is well written and is quite short to read which makes it one of the best love books out there!
2. Attached
Author: Amir Levine. M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.
Attachment issues are more common than you think, so if you think you are among the few that have attachment issues you are wrong. This book gives great insights on attachment theory and how it affects our relationships.
This book is ideal for singles as well as those who are already in love. We must know our own attachment style and whether it’s something we need to work on. When we recognize our pattern of attachment and why it occurs, it will motivate us to work on ourselves and improve our attachment style for the better.
3. Loving Bravely
Author: Alexander H. Solomon, PhD
Love is such a nuanced feeling, we want it but we don’t exactly know what love looks like for us! This is the book for those who are falling in love with the idea of love rather than knowing what love is for them.
The author has managed to give us valuable lessons and practical advice to find the true meaning of love for us rather than following the notion of rom coms and the love life of people we see on social media.
You would learn what kind of love you want, and once you would learn that, it might get a little bit easier to find love!
4. How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind
Author: John Van Epp, Ph.D.
The name of the book might be too sassy for some, but it’s quite a beautifully written book about love and how one should take some time falling in love.
We live in a day and age where people fall in and out of love quite quickly yet want that old school love story. Do you know what made old school love successful and so magical? It takes time to build that kind of love and form a relationship. You should pace yourself when you meet new people, let it brew slowly and decently. Know the other person and let the other person get to know you well before making a commitment.
This book teaches us the beauty of waiting and taking time to fall in love so that you can experience true love!
5. Modern Romance
Author: Aziz Ansari, Eric Klinenberg
Modern dating is quite complicated and there is no doubt about that. The terms like ghosting, breadcrumbing, benching, and so on are just mind bending. This book is a guide for those who want to have an understanding of Modern Romance and how they can navigate their way in today’s dating culture.
Conclusion
Sure one book can not answer all your questions, but reading these popular books on love and relationships would certainly help you get a healthy idea of love. Make sure to give these books a read and you might know how you can find love too. I hope you enjoy these books as much as I did and they somehow make you understand what love is and how you can find it too!